This week in the group we learnt about attachment. This means the bonds you make (or don’t make) with your caregivers as a child. We learnt about different types of attachment and the behaviours related to the different types. I won’t go into detail about those here, there is plenty of information about attachment available online for people interested in learning more 🙂
We talked about what the culture of our family was like in relation to emotions when we were growing up. For my family, I said that no one talked about their feelings. I’ve thought about it a bit more since, and I guess some people got to show some of their feelings, though they weren’t expressed vocally. My dad was very angry a lot of the time and I acted angry back. My mum used to sometimes cry and go upstairs to bed to lie down. I had forgotten about that until recently.
I talked to my individual therapist about being afraid of conflict and judgement from others in the group if I let go of my feelings or disagree with anyone.
I was able to be honest with my therapist that I worry about judgement from her and that is one of the things that makes it hard to talk in our sessions.